I love reading good marriage books. The tips I find, whether big or small, are helpful and just reading about all the things I should be doing in a marriage are good reminders.
When I heard that Hal and Melanie Young were writing a marriage book, I really wanted to read it. I knew that they were a large homeschooling family and I’ve been very blessed by their book called “Raising Real Men“. Having heard them speak once, you could tell they had a good marriage by how they were able to bounce off of each others ideas and share a session together.
When I got the book in the mail, I was able to sit and read it during a two hour downtime I had at my children’s homeschool co-op. It is an easy read, written in a conversation style.
A few things that stood out to me from this book.
1. I appreciated that they talked a lot about illness in marriage and even included morning sickness. When you have a larger family and suffer with horrible morning sickness, it can take a toll on your marriage. Your husband is under so much strain trying to keep everything together, and you are an emotional mess trying to endure feeling sick all the time. Hal and Melanie shared some experiences of their trials through morning sickness, cancer, and a baby in the hospital and how to keep your marriage strong during those times.
2. They tackled the difficult topic of submission in marriage with insight and tact.
“Submission is not bondage, but rather freedom to Melanie. It means that she doesn’t have to worry and agonize that she’s making the wrong decision, but it doesn’t prevent her from making dozens of decisions every day about our family and our business.”
And another favorite quote.
“….wives are told to submit, but husbands are told to die. At least, that’s the measure of love Christ gave to us in the church. There’s no room for selfishness in any degree, if your calling is service to the point of death.”
They make it clear that they are not promoting some sort of egotistic submission, where whatever the man says goes, simply because he is the husband. There is a give and take in marriage, the husband and wife both mutually respect and love each other, and ultimately the husband is the head of the home, but he submits to God. I love good examples of submission done correctly in marriage.
3. They talked about leaving and cleaving. Of creating a strong bond after becoming married. I appreciated their thoughts and suggestions on how to do this.
4. Most of all I liked reading their thoughts on how to become best friends. Isn’t that what we are supposed to be? Married to our absolute best friend, the person we can tell our deepest secrets and our hearts desires? It doesn’t happen overnight. Having a marriage that strong takes time and work.
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